Nothing To Do About Money

February 20, 2013

By Bridget Grella

Sitting on our couch last night my daughters were watching a comedy and the wife was watching a child birth DVD that prompted the questions: Does it really hurt that much? How long does the pain last? How long were you in labor? 

Now as the mother of teenagers I wanted to let them know that it does hurt. So don’t have sex. But as their Mother I also told them that it still remains my greatest achievement and a blessing. My oldest turned to me and said: it’s not the best thing you have ever done…I said, what is better than bringing you and your sister in the world? She replied: Divorcing Daddy…GASP… I thought about it and said: I would never put the divorce in a “best thing I have ever done” category. 

What my daughters do not know is that years leading up to the divorce I prayed to God for peace. To stop feeling hurt, pain, and confusion. What I believe is that our prayers are answered. We couldn’t live the way we were and in retrospect I can’t believe I took as much as I did. The big “but” in this is that we cannot dictate how it will be delivered. Because trust me I would have prayed for that too.

Like all things with my ex…everything was big and loud. The separation and divorce was no different. The list goes on and on. I felt like a pinball between numb and hurt. But as I write this today almost 18 months later…When I look in the mirror I see the girl I once knew… The one that believed in success, love, and herself. I am thrilled that she is back. I had no idea how much I missed her and how much her daughters needed her. 

Change happens whether we want it or not. Children grow, life regroups, family dynamics change. I am proud to report that we got through the storm and it made me a stronger woman. My daughters are stronger young woman and together we are unstoppable.